Those of us exposed to trauma know all too well the experience of distressing nightmares.

As a result of volunteering for a support group that helps abused adult children, I learned how exactly narcissistic parents behave. There are phases of this abuse which alternate between rage and peace, which confuse and bewilder. Narcissistic abuse has the power to hold its victim for long periods of time. Waking Up to Narcissistic Abuse: 'Our Parents Are the Last People We Can Trust' 10/20/2017 01:42 am ET Updated Oct 20, 2017 HuffPost - Contributor Platform. Whether it’s a child and an emotionally abusive parent, or an adult with a narcissistic partner, the effect is the same—narcissistic abuse that can leave much more than just emotional damage. This article extends recent posts on the roles played in families dominated by a narcissistic caregiver. Narcissistic abuse is one of the worse types of psychological abuse that one person can do to another, but unfortunately, many people are stuck in these types of relationships..

Today’s blog post describes why a malignantly narcissistic parent has to scapegoat a child, why certain children get picked as the scapegoat, the impact of getting scapegoated and how to use therapy to recover from this especially pernicious form of abuse. Evidence That Therapists Aren’t Taught About Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Narcissistic Abuse in School. 1) The child grows to have narcissistic traits, and becomes a Narcissistic Parent to his/her own children. The narcissistic parent’s example is not a good one by any means. I was married to a narcissist for over 20 years. 10 ways narcissistic parents negatively affect their children. The worst part about being abused in an emotional manner is how you are almost completely unaware of the abuse.

We may thrash around in bed and struggle to speak or cry out. If the Narcissistic Parent does not stop the abuse or the child does not receive adequate help, one of two scenarios happens to adult children of Narcissistic Parents.
Photo courtesy of Pixabay. It’s fraught with emotion and riddled with guilt.

As the child grows the controlling parent may feel threatened by their son or daughter’s developing independence. To begin your process of soul healing, you might like to do the following: Stop hoping that your narcissistic parent will change — you can never change them. Young children of a mother or father who has Narcissistic Personality Disorder are genuine victims of their parent and the disorder—as much as any child who lives through life with an addicted parent, or one guilty of physical or sexual abuse. Find out more about it and how to know if you're a victim. Some narcissistic parents are threatened by their offspring’s potential, promise, and success, as they challenge the parent’s self-esteem. As narcissistic parents age, their offspring (ACONs: Adult Children of Narcissists) are faced with one of life’s toughest choices.

The narcissist has a desperate desire to be ‘needed’ and hates what they see as their loss of control, sometimes turning against their children as a result. However, this story is very different when the altar is narcissism. The term narcissistic abuse refers to the way people can be emotionally manipulated by a narcissist, and how it adversely affects one’s self-esteem and self-worth. Narcissistic abuse Is a new kind of emotional abuse committed by narcissists.

Numerous studies have been conducted on the subject of narcissistic parenting and its impact on offspring. Narcissistic parents abuse their children in subtle ways.

Many narcissist support groups recommend cutting off contact from such parents or interacting them in small, measured ways (such as through a phone call, or text message). When someone finally saw the truth of my abusive relationship, they would urge me to leave.

As a result of chronic abuse, victims may struggle with symptoms of PTSD or Complex PTSD if they had additional traumas like being abused by narcissistic parents or even what is known as “Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome” (Staggs, 2016; Stailk, 2017).